Hi Jacqueline,

I have been spanked now for several years by my husband. I am 32, and he started spanking me at 23. When I was growing up I never got spanked, instead Igot everything Iwanted. And that is why I was the person I was when I met my husband. I would act like a complete child when I met him, wanting everything, pouting if i didn't, throwing temper tantrums, getting in attitudes, cussing all the time and lying.

Boy did he show me how not to act, the first time he did it, I will never forget, he spanked me with a spatula too many times to count. I couldn't sit for at least a week and I had some marks. Well now, I am a better person, but he still put the brush across my butt when needed. I would like your opinion about this small story.

I have another question for u too. I really wish my aunt who raised me would have spanked me, and I would really like for her to, but don't know how to approach her with it, and say to her, and how do I really get to make her do it, plz help when u can.
- Judy

Dear Judy,
It sounds like your husband knows how to keep you in line. I'm glad because you receive comfort in getting spanked.

Many of us who like spankings as adults, never received this kind of discipline as a child. Maybe we were scolded, grounded for weeks on end or worse, just neglected. We harbor guilt feelings and wish we would have gotten the relief that a spanking can bring. That's why it's good your husband knows what you need and how to set proper boundaries from you.

As far as approaching your aunt, I would not suggest it. She doesn't understand and asking her to spank you now would be most inappropriate. When I do my sessions, I often role play figures from an individual's past in order to bring about guilt relief and closure. For example, I could play-act your aunt and give you the spanking that you deserved from the past. I understand your needs and would be more than happy to turn you over my knee and deal with all naughty behavior both past and present.

You can see me or perhaps find a female spanker in your area to deal with your leftover feelings but please do not approach your aunt.

- Jacqueline

Dear Ms. Jacqueline,

How are you doing? I hope you and yours are healthy and well.

I have been reviewing your collection of spanking videos. The one that caught my eye is "Playful Spankings."

I am thinking of telling the lady I have been dating about my interest in spanking. In fact, I've been seeing her for 7, maybe 8 months and things are going really, really well. But, I've been fretting about mentioning the spanking thing but, I know I need to mention it as it's a part of me.

Well, anyway. I was wondering if you track video sales by gender. What videos do females tend to purchase? Or is "Playful Spankings" a best choice for introducing spanking to a "vanilla" woman.

I don't know... just looking for ideas, thinking about my approach... a video? A playful spanking to see her reaction? Or perhaps leave a paddle under the bed sheets... maybe not.

- John

Hi John,

Sorry but we don't track by gender. Men are a vast majority of our customers though we are getting a growing number of females. Remember, the females customers we get are hardcore players themselves. So, you can't compare their interest with someone new into spanking.

'Playful Spankings' would definitely be a good video to show her. Another good one is 'Wheel of Discipline 1, 2 and 3. Basically, anything that isn't too hardcore or won't scare her away.

Briefly, your ideas are good. Paddle under the bedsheets might be a little extreme though it did make me chuckle....Watching a video together may be a good idea after you talk to her at length. A playful spanking to see her reaction is also a good idea.

Basically, I think you should approach the subject very cautiously. You could ask her about her fantasies first. When you tell her about spanking, talk in a positive way. Tell her how much fun it is and that it's something you're sure she'll like. When you do finally spank her, make damn sure it's a very, very positive experience. I believe if the lady is the right one for you, she'll be more than happy to make you happy (and then of course, don't forget about reciprocating and making her happy too).

- Jacqueline

Here's someone else's approach. It worked for him. He's the silent type!

Jacqueline,

Here is a short story, perhaps with some pointers i can submit it to your letters or articles.

I work in construction. A friend bought some houses in ky. and asked me to come out and help him fix them up. I did. After work he started to introduce me to some people. I was 30, and single and ALWAYS on the lookout. He introduced me to a nice lady and we were IMMEDIATLY attracted to each other. I set about to seduce her. After a few dates, she invited me home.

She took me inside and we sat and started kissing, it got VERY intense. After a bit she took my hand and we went upstairs to her bedroom. She told me to wait and she would get into something comfortable. While waiting I went downstairs and made a drink. My mind started to wander, and I saw a wooden spoon with a flat handle and I had just made a drink and there were LOTS of ice cubes soooooo I decided WHY NOT its worth a try ALL she can do is throw me out RIGHT?

I took the bowl of ice and the spoon and went back upstairs. I placed them within easy reach on her night stand. She came back in the room wearing a see thru night gown and panties..no bra. We sat and started making out and soon I pulled her down, on top of me. As she was on top I had free roam of her back and tush. I rubbed both and she started moaning. I knew i had her. I gently eased myself up and kept her down and that had the result of her staying.. laid across my lap with her head on the bed and her fanny over my lap. i raised her nightgown and played with her fanny. She REALLY liked it so i gave her a pat. HEYYYYYY she said WHAT are you doing?

I told her i was patting her fanny and delivered another light smack. I NEVER mentioned spanking even though THATS what I was starting to do. I rubbed her back and gave her smacks in between. Her hips started to move and I knew she was enjoying it. I got bolder I put my hand under her panties and felt her bottom. It was like a shock went thru her and me. Her bottom was firm and smooth to the touch. I lowered her panties to just below her fanny and continued to spank..VERY lightly. She WASN'T even pink yet but I could tell by the way she moved her hips...she was enjoying this ALOT.

I got BOLDER. I started to put some FORCE into the smacks and she started to breathe heavy. By now the smacks were forceful enough to get small groans out of her, not in pain, more like lust. I increased the tempo and the force until i started to get 'little protests' OW OOOOO OW THAT STINGS I continued for a few more. By this time her fanny was just a bit pink. I stopped and rubbed. She was moaning in a low voice. I reached over and got an ice cube. Now these ice cubes came outta an ice cube tray[ this was the 80's] so they were about an inch thick and an inch and a half long. I took it and started to rub it on her bottom, in the area where I was spanking her.

When I first put it on she jerked in reaction but as I was moving it about she started to move also. I rubbed that ice cube over her fanny until it melted. it took QUITE awhile and the water from it melting ran between her ass cheeks and I'm sure onto her pussy. By the time it was melted her fanny felt cold and had something 'akin' to goose bumps on it. She MUST be cold sooooo I set about warming her up, again. The spanks this time were
like a regular spanking. I was still using my hand but applying the spanks with CONSIDERABLE force. She moved her hips around but made NO attempt to escape. I continued until her bottom felt dry and by this time it was darker than pink but not as red as i knew it could be.

I stopped again for some more ice and started to rub her again. This time I rubbed her fanny with the ice cube, in such a way, so that I was shaping it and smoothing it taking ALL the sharp edges off and making it as cone shaped as I could it was getting smaller. She was MOVING around and keeping her legs open , so this little piece of ice went down her bottom to where her legs meet her fanny and then i moved it towards her pussy and played with putting it in.

I COULDN'T believe her reaction! She BUCKED and nearly came off my lap so I pushed what was left into her and held on. She was groaning and asked me to take her NOW! I said NOT YET. That's when I reached for the spoon. I took the flat handle part and started to spank her with that. I moved it up and down her
fanny and spanked where the legs meet the fanny and continued up to the sit spot. Lots of great reaction....leading to you know what!

This experience showed me that it's good to take a chance!

- Joe

Joe,

Yes, I think this is a good example of taking it slow. I like your non-verbal approach. That was a great idea and worked out favorably for you. Thanks for sharing!

- Jacqueline

Hello Jacqueline,
I recently purchased two videos and was thoroughly satisfied with them. It contained excellent themes, REAL and hard spanking (true punishment), was of very high quality(clear), and of course the girls are so attractive and shapely.. it is rare to have all four things in any production, so my highest compliments. you have a new regular buyer!

Of course spankings are not my sole interest, as I also purchase enema and medical fetish videos. As I was reading your letter sections, I found a couple of interesting letters( #12) which alluded to this topic. One referred to rectal temperature which I find a very humbling experience for a grown up. I would love to see that incorporated into a scene. Maybe by a suspicious mom, auntie or even a school nurse in dealing with a scheming young lady. The embarrassment and the shock of being told that a rectal reading is the only way to determine whether she is faking! followed by a hard spanking for lying!

The second letter made reference to enemas, and in your reply you wanted to know our feelings and feedback on the topic. Enemas have always fascinated me as much as spankings. In my opinion, they are as effective as a good sound spanking in getting the point across! In my search for the perfect enema videos, I have come across many. Some relatively ok, others outright insulting to the customer! Nothing more disappointing than to purchase a video claiming multitude of quarts (unrealistic volumes) with faked reaction from the girl receiving. Then there are those that show the entire process in a medical setting, but lack the punishment element.

I realize in many respects enema videos are a recent phenomenon, so they have a way to go to become better, much like the spanking videos have over the years. Somehow, I feel, it will have to be a production co such as yours which would set the standards in that area, much like you have in spanking. i can't wait for the day when I would acquire my first tape of such nature from you. A scheming young lady, chastised for faking illness to get out of doing something, her temperature taken rectally, her naughty bottom bruised with a sound brush spanking and to reinforce the point about faking illness experience the discomfort and total humiliation of a good sized enema!

I have confidence that the only one who can produce this is you. Again, my compliments on the outstanding quality of what i've seen so far.
I.K. new york.

I.K,
Thank you so much. Glad you enjoy our products.

Enemas are certainly humiliating and definitely punishing. As someone who is totally into spanking, I prefer keeping punishments spanking oriented but can see adding an enema when appropriate.

We have an enema video in the can...(no pun intended). Will be released shortly. I think you'll be happy with the results.
- Jacqueline

Dear Miss Jacqueline,
Thank you so much for taking the trouble to reply to me. What with all the e-mails you must receive and all those lovely bottoms you have to spank, I really feel very honored.

You just encapsulated everything I feel about spanking. It is very much a turn-on for me and yet I want and need a spanking to be real, and it is very encouraging to know that someone like yourself understands. I'm so glad that you enjoy what you do and it is refreshing to see a group of people who can openly and honestly take part in an activity which they love. After many years of feeling guilty about my needs, I now know that it is not abnormal and although I still unfortunately have to hide it from my social and family circle, I don't feel that guilt any more.

I don't know how it has been in the States, but here in the UK there was a big lobby against corporal punishment in schools from the early 1980's, and political correctness has all but eradicated it, even in the home. Please don't get me wrong, I absolutely abhor any suggestion of violence on children, although I do believe there is a place for moderate and occasional spanking carried out by caring parents. However, any references to spanking in the media almost always refer to sleaze or kinky activities, and I often feel that if anyone found out that I go and get spanked from time to time, they would be more shocked than if I had an extramarital affair.

Thank you once again for taking up your valuable time to e-mail me.
- Alan

Alan,
Yes spanking is a loaded issue. You're right. People would be more horrified about your spanking sessions than learning of a marital affair. Funny because a session is a harmless pastime. Other than the spanking interaction, there's no real involvement, no commitment and no chance of late night calls from a 'scorned woman'. People generally have sessions to fulfill a real need that is otherwise unfulfilled. However, people who aren't into this just don't really understand.

Stay in touch and maybe one day we'll have a spanking good time together in the United States.
- Jacqueline

Rick,

Yes, it's definitely important to have balance in your life. However you are probably obsessed with spanking because it's a need that is going unsatisfied and unfulfilled. For example, a hungry person thinks about food. Those of us who know we will get three square meals a day don't really think about food that much. We like it; we enjoy it; but we are not obsessed.

I can offer you counseling as well as play. Might be time to come to Los Angeles and have a session with me!

- Jacqueline

Hi Evan

Glad you contacted me. Believe it or not, I have seen several men who thought they were confirmed tops but suddenly had a curiosity about the other side.

I think that most of us who are into spanking enjoy both sides. Of course there is a preferred position but it's only natural to be curious about the other end (no pun intended!)

I think it's more healthy to be a switch and it gives one more options for play.Not to mention you can play for a longer time. Switching is fun because it gives a longer break between spanking. Switching is a great way to communicate what you enjoy. Your partner sees you in both roles so she'll understand your vantage point about spanking much better. Finally, it's better to be switchable with approaching a girl. She may feel more comfortable receiving a spanking, if she's allowed to give one first.

I'm a great advocate of switching; especially in a couples relationship. It offers more balance and equality. No one gets stuck or too serious about their roles. In general, it's much, much healthier.

If you ever come to Los Angeles, we should do a session. I will be respectful of you and give you a safe opportunity to explore the other side.

- Jacqueline